"Results" Marriage Counseling
This approach
“provides a road map for finding your way back to a loving
marriage”–John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
Oprah features this approach frequently
48 Hours, The Today Show, and CBS This Morning
"The Results Have Been Phenomenal"
-Kent Brand
“If you loved me, you would know what I think, feel, and you would give it to me. Since you don’t , you obviously don’t care.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 1
“If you loved me, you would agree with me. You don’t. You don’t love me.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 3
“If you loved me, you would not try to change me.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 4
“If you tell me your feelings, I must do what you want. So I don’t want to hear your feelings.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 4
“I feel unappreciated.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 5
“If I tell you how I feel, you will be angry. You will attack me or withhold from me. I am afraid of your anger and your distance. I can’t tell you. I live a lie.” - Marriage Counseling Couple #6
“If you were what you should be, I would be happy, successful, popular, attractive, virile, potent, sexy. I’m not. It’s your fault.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 7
“If you are distant from me, you don’t love me. Therefore why should I love you?” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 8
“If you criticize me, I feel inadequate. If you compliment me, you are placating or controlling me, by saying only what you think I want to hear.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 9
“If I tell you how I feel, you are angry. If I don’t tell you how I feel, you are angry.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 10
If your marriage is struggling in negativity and you are losing hope, you have come to the right place.
After thirty years in Social Work while serving hundreds of families, I came to the conviction that I did not want to feel “stabbed in the stomach” each time I heard of a divorce. Because of the devastation that divorce causes children and parents, I went on a search to find a method to make a transforming difference in marriages that might otherwise end in divorce. My approach of marriage counseling is based on the solution based Divorce Busting Therapy of Michele Weiner Davis(www.divorcebusting.com). Michele is the author of the book, “Divorce Busting a Step by Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again” (Fireside, 1993), and this year's recipient of the outstanding achievement award of the American Association of Marital and Family Therapists.
Ms. Weiner-Davis is strongly anti-divorce and does all she can to prevent divorces in her therapy and workshops. The divorce of her parents when she was a child had a devastating impact on her which led to her divorce busting work, an example of how something positive can come out of childhood suffering.
What Weiner-Davis encourages her clients to do is to stop doing over and over what has not worked in the past and decide on new behaviors they can try to get their spouses to be more loving. These behaviors should be positively stated, action oriented and broken down into small steps. For example, asking your spouse to quit ignoring or being critical of you is not as effective as asking him to show you more love by hugging you once a day or having a date every other week. In her marriage counseling, she keeps hammering away at solutions rather than problems. Marriage counseling now becomes attainable behavioral changes rather than insights.
The results of this approach to marriage counseling have been so phenomenal that I have renamed the therapy, “Results” Marriage Counseling. Since I want to see marriages transform from considering divorce to great happiness in marriage, I am thrilled to offer “Results Marriage Counseling to you even if your spouse is not willing to cooperate. The amazing results that come even if only one spouse comes to marriage counseling is one of the most powerful dimensions of “Results” Marriage Counseling. This does not mean that you are the problem in your marriage. In most marriages both spouses contribute roughly equal to the challenges of a poor marriage. Your decision to be in marriage counseling only means, in my humble opinion, that you have the strength and courage to work on your marriage by yourself.
Pay close attention to the “results” from several couples who have been diligent in seeking “Results” Marriage Counseling.
“Just a few weeks ago I was ready to walk away from my marriage. My husband’s attitude stunk........................I am so happy about this (amazing results in marriage) that I just want to burst. I am just so happy/thankful.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 11
“It wasn’t very long ago that I was concerned about the lack of passion from my wife....I asked my wife to marry me again on the same day as I did seven years ago. She said “yes.” It was only words because we never got to the divorce. But we both needed to hear it and recommit. WOW! The last month...if I didn’t know better I would say I was in the most wonderful dream I could ever imagine.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 12
“We had an argument that led my husband to leaving home.....We continue to overcome obstacles. I’ve changed, he’s changed, and our marriage has changed.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 13
“My wife asked me to leave about three months ago....I was a mess...Slowly things started to change.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 14
“My husband was ready to divorce because he was ‘not in love’ anymore.....and now I see a bright future ahead.” - Marriage Counseling Couple# 15
“I want to thank you for saving my marriage...We celebrated our anniversary in May, one of the most memorable weekends of my life. I am the happiest guy in the world right now.” - Marriage Counseling Couple # 16
Marriage? Marriage. Marriage! Terrible Marriage? Mediocre Marriage. Awesome Marriage! Counseling? Counseling. Counseling! Terrible Counseling? Mediocre Counseling. Awesome Counseling! Believe that awesome therapy will lead to an awesome marriage!!!!
EXPECT THE IMPOSSIBLE!!!!!!!!!!!
Call 256-766-5707 now to reserve your first appointment for “Results” Marriage Counseling with the only Divorce Busting Therapist in Alabama.
A FAMILY MATTER
Kent R. Brand, MSW, ACSW, LCSW, PIP
“Results” Marriage Counselor
256-718-7273
kent@afamilymatter.com
A FAMILY MATTER provides marriage counseling, marriage therapy for couples, children’s counseling, anger counseling, depression psychotherapy, divorce counseling for couples, and Christian family counseling.
Our clinic serves the online community, as well as communities in North West and North Central
Alabama, North East Mississippi, and South Central Tennessee including: Florence, Muscle Shoals, Tuscumbia, Sheffield, Lexington, Rogersville, Cherokee, Russellville, Athens, Madison, Decatur, Huntsville, Red Bay, Killen, Leighton, Phil Campbell, Iuka, Corinth, Belmont, Booneville, Tupelo, Lawrenceburg, Savannah, Collinwood, Loretto, and Waynesboro: 35630, 35633, 35634, 35677, 35661, 35674, 35660, 35648, 35610, 35653, 35585, 35654, 35581, 35582, 35593, 38847, 35645, 35646, 35616, 35653, 35652, 35648, 35611, 35612, 35758, 35601, 35602, 35603, 35813, 35801, 35814, 35804, 35815, 35810, 35804, 35824, 35807, 35808, 35812, 35807, 38464, 38372, 38450, 38469, 38485, 38852, 38834, 38835, 38827,38829,38801, 38802.
We provide marriage counseling, marriage therapy, psychotherapy for individuals and therapy for children. For an appointment with a marriage counselor or family therapist contact us at 256-766-5707 or
kent@afamilymatter.com.Call us today, and let us help your Marriage and your Family!
(256) 766-5707
